I hate spending money. My Scottish-Dutch genetic makeup combined with my upbringing in a Depression impacted family has turned me into a person that gets anxious any time I head to the cash register. You know how some people call shopping “retail therapy”? Well, shopping has never been that for me. The act of spending [...]
I often wonder if there are other parents out there like me. I start wondering it about five minutes after dropping my kids off at school. Day one of five days they are with their dad on our 2255 parenting schedule. Are there other parents out there that know what a 2255 parenting schedule means? [...]
When you think of your life up until this point does it make you happy or do you focus on the negative aspects of your past and use it as an excuse to stop moving forward? How we view the past often depends on how we perceive our present life. If you are living [...]
Step 1 - Identify Your Financial Personality and Spending Habits What is the dream you have that money will serve? Answering this question for yourself will go a long way to self-awareness about your values and beliefs around money. Everyone is unique and has different values and beliefs concerning money. In addition, we are all brought [...]
I had an uncomfortable conversation with a friend last night. She is in the middle of a very bitter divorce and she is feeling fearful of the outcome which will be decided by a judge. A brief history of her situation. Let’s call her Sara. Sara is getting divorced from her husband. They have two [...]
“they say that time heals all things, they say you can always forget; but the smiles and the tears across the years they twist my heart strings yet!” - George Orwell I've been getting a lot of lessons lately about how time heals all wounds. People tell me it takes time, things will get [...]
In the years leading up to my divorce I used to get together with my friends and we would (ahem - occasionally) sit around and discuss how irritating our partners were being at the moment. As things got more dire between myself and my ex-husband this became the only thing I ever really talked about. [...]
Last night I went to a workshop on personal boundaries: identifying them, maintaining them, and communicating them to others. I went out of interest's sake as I've always thought I had fairly good personal boundaries and I see myself as a strong independent confident type of person. Plus the workshop was free and the accountant in me loves getting free training [...]
In Lynne Twist's book, The Soul Of Money, she writes: For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is "I didn't get enough sleep." The next one is "I don't have enough time." Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think [...]
Congratulations. Finalizing a separation agreement is a major achievement and usually comes at the end of a very stressful and emotional period in your life. Signing a separation agreement will likely have a strong emotional impact on you. It is tangible evidence that your old life, the one you once had hopes and dreams for, is finally done. [...]