I had an uncomfortable conversation with a friend last night. She is in the middle of a very bitter divorce and she is feeling fearful of the outcome which will be decided by a judge. A brief history of her situation. Let’s call her Sara. Sara is getting divorced from her husband. They have two [...]
“they say that time heals all things, they say you can always forget; but the smiles and the tears across the years they twist my heart strings yet!” - George Orwell I've been getting a lot of lessons lately about how time heals all wounds. People tell me it takes time, things will get [...]
In the years leading up to my divorce I used to get together with my friends and we would (ahem - occasionally) sit around and discuss how irritating our partners were being at the moment. As things got more dire between myself and my ex-husband this became the only thing I ever really talked about. [...]
Last night I went to a workshop on personal boundaries: identifying them, maintaining them, and communicating them to others. I went out of interest's sake as I've always thought I had fairly good personal boundaries and I see myself as a strong independent confident type of person. Plus the workshop was free and the accountant in me loves getting free training [...]
In Lynne Twist's book, The Soul Of Money, she writes: For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is "I didn't get enough sleep." The next one is "I don't have enough time." Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think [...]
Congratulations. Finalizing a separation agreement is a major achievement and usually comes at the end of a very stressful and emotional period in your life. Signing a separation agreement will likely have a strong emotional impact on you. It is tangible evidence that your old life, the one you once had hopes and dreams for, is finally done. [...]
If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present. -Lao Tzu I've always avoided borrowing things in my life (ok, except my neighbour's tools after my ex got ours in the split) but [...]
There are many of negative thoughts out there that keep a person stuck in one place. I know because these thoughts kept me stuck: I let those thoughts control my actions. One thought that keeps turning up in my life is "I can't do it." This is accompanied with "I am not good, smart, ambitious, deserving. [...]
Do you sometimes think to yourself “I am alone”? I do. It is usually immediately after dropping my kids off at school on a day that is the start of a five day stretch where they live at their dad’s home. It doesn’t matter that about thirty minutes earlier they were driving me bonkers with [...]
You are not alone and not surprisingly this is one of the leading causes of breakups and divorce. Many partnerships are comprised of these two opposing personalities which makes sense as opposites attract and when they get together each gets to see how the other half lives. Living with a spender can be fantastic fun for the normally conservative saver. At [...]