What are your rules for a successful life? And how did you develop the rules you follow? I frequently ask myself that question as most of my life; I followed a set of rules that I seemed to have absorbed from the air around me. It is only within the last seven years that I [...]
Christmas, I am not a fan. Why, as a society, have we not yet outgrown the need for Christmas? Why does Christmas persist? Why, oh, why won't we come to our collective societal senses and banish it once and for all? I have come to the conclusion that Christmas is a self-perpetuating system, a feedback [...]
One of the primary services I provide is assisting my clients with preparing budgets. I've noticed that clients only ask for help with a budget when they've gotten to the point where they don't know what else to do. The word "budget" seems to invoke fear and resistance in the minds of many people. To [...]
First off, my child is a boy, but my article applies equally to girls, and perhaps, even more. Our current sports policy ensures that most girls will give up on sport by the age of thirteen, though lately, I see this tide turn as we convince more girls to follow the current societal model to [...]
Photo by Bruno Figueiredo on Unsplash There has been a recent spate of discussion about the importance of Connection. Unconnected people feel alone, and lonely people, not surprisingly, don't have as positive health outcomes as those people who feel loved and connected to the world. It only took a pandemic and a bunch of people who were suddenly [...]
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash One of the first rules of communication is keeping it brief, so my usual preamble about why I'm currently writing my blog post is now a post-amble. Communication Tools to Survive a Pandemic Step 1: You have to understand the system to hack the system. What system? Your communication system. And more [...]
Photo by Wolf Schram on Unsplash It is C+16 since my world changed. Pardon me if you don't understand my lingo. Ironically, I happen to be reading "Seveneves" by Neal Stephenson, which is a story about a BIG world change, the destruction of earth as the result of an Agent that breaks up the moon into little pieces. [...]
International Women's Day - March 8, 2020 - Vancouver Equity No, not the type on a Balance Sheet. I was recently at a workshop on diversity and inclusion, and I learned something new. Equity does not equal Equality. I should have known that because Equity doesn't always equal the Assets on a Balance Sheet. Balance [...]
Are you stuck? I don't know, you think to yourself. Define "stuck." Repeating the same patterns, doing the same thing over and over again, unable to do things any differently, feeling controlled, trapped, all while feeling an emotion that you know is the opposite of content. Stuck Searching for the exit in a maze for [...]
I recently came across this article: https://justbetweenus.org/relationships/parenting-advice/the-invisible-mother/ It is supposed to make me feel better or shame me into silence. It doesn't. We are training the caretakers of our society, the primary caregiving parents, the teachers, and other support workers that their work doesn't count. I see this every day in the work I do [...]