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June 2020

Current Societal Policies and Team Sports

By | 2020-06-09T15:34:16-07:00 June 9th, 2020|News & Updates|

First off, my child is a boy, but my article applies equally to girls, and perhaps, even more. Our current sports policy ensures that most girls will give up on sport by the age of thirteen, though lately, I see this tide turn as we convince more girls to follow the current societal model to [...]

May 2020

Are You Really Alone? Part II: Connection

By | 2020-05-02T16:21:10-07:00 May 2nd, 2020|Self-Help|

Photo by Bruno Figueiredo on Unsplash There has been a recent spate of discussion about the importance of Connection. Unconnected people feel alone, and lonely people, not surprisingly, don't have as positive health outcomes as those people who feel loved and connected to the world. It only took a pandemic and a bunch of people who were suddenly [...]

April 2020

Communication Tools to Survive a Pandemic

By | 2020-04-04T10:48:25-07:00 April 4th, 2020|Divorce Self-Help|

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash One of the first rules of communication is keeping it brief, so my usual preamble about why I'm currently writing my blog post is now a post-amble.  Communication Tools to Survive a Pandemic Step 1: You have to understand the system to hack the system. What system? Your communication system. And more [...]

March 2020

Pandemic and Divorce

By | 2020-03-29T15:21:02-07:00 March 29th, 2020|Beginning Again, Divorce Self-Help|

Photo by Wolf Schram on Unsplash It is C+16 since my world changed. Pardon me if you don't understand my lingo. Ironically, I happen to be reading "Seveneves" by Neal Stephenson, which is a story about a BIG world change, the destruction of earth as the result of an Agent that breaks up the moon into little pieces. [...]

Equity

By | 2020-03-08T15:55:59-07:00 March 8th, 2020|Divorce Self-Help|

International Women's Day - March 8, 2020 - Vancouver Equity No, not the type on a Balance Sheet. I was recently at a workshop on diversity and inclusion, and I learned something new. Equity does not equal Equality. I should have known that because Equity doesn't always equal the Assets on a Balance Sheet. Balance [...]

February 2020

Stuck—Unstuck

By | 2020-02-09T09:04:19-08:00 February 9th, 2020|Beginning Again|

Are you stuck? I don't know, you think to yourself. Define "stuck." Repeating the same patterns, doing the same thing over and over again, unable to do things any differently, feeling controlled, trapped, all while feeling an emotion that you know is the opposite of content. Stuck Searching for the exit in a maze for [...]

January 2020

The Invisible Mother – My Perspective

By | 2020-01-31T12:48:38-08:00 January 31st, 2020|News & Updates|

I recently came across this article: https://justbetweenus.org/relationships/parenting-advice/the-invisible-mother/ It is supposed to make me feel better or shame me into silence. It doesn't. We are training the caretakers of our society, the primary caregiving parents, the teachers, and other support workers that their work doesn't count. I see this every day in the work I do [...]

Comparison is the Thief of Joy

By | 2020-01-30T13:43:02-08:00 January 30th, 2020|Self-Help|

Photo by David Marcu on Unsplash Yes, I stole that title; my good friend posted it on Facebook a few months ago, and it's been ricocheting around in my brain ever since I read it. The author is Theodore Roosevelt - apparently, that man had some things figured out that I've taken longer to learn. Comparison. It's insidious. [...]

December 2019

Trigger Warning

By | 2019-12-24T00:33:08-08:00 December 20th, 2019|Divorce Self-Help, Self-Help|

Photo by Anton Scherbakov on Unsplash Christmas What?  Yes, Christmas is the word that can suddenly switch my day from ticking along smoothly to suddenly becoming one of "those days." Yes, "Christmas" and yes, just the word "Christmas." Christmas starts to pop up in discussions (or so I have noticed) in about September, and then it becomes a major theme [...]

November 2019

Excuse Me, You are a What?

By | 2019-11-20T10:37:30-08:00 November 20th, 2019|Divorce Self-Help|

I'm a Financial Neutral in the Collaborative Divorce Process. I think you need some background, so let me explain... When I first began my business, I didn't know much about myself, and I started under the general guidelines I knew about free-lancing. Those being:  Offer a service or product (the development phase). Put yourself out there [...]