When my ex and I first separated, I spent a long time trying to craft my emails to my ex so that there was nothing offensive in them. I did not want him to attack back as reading those attacks was pretty painful. How could this person that I had been a partner to for 20 [...]
My ex sent me a doozy of an attack email the other day. He sent it on Monday and it is now Wednesday. It was a good reminder to me of what I've learned this past year and the havoc these types of emails cause. I really have to thank him for it because he is giving me [...]
Divorce is horrible. That is an understatement. I had no idea how horrible until I went through the divorce process myself. Ok, it may not be horrible for everyone, like those couples that have mutually agreed that it is for the best if they go their separate ways and can amicably agree on how that should [...]
“they say that time heals all things, they say you can always forget; but the smiles and the tears across the years they twist my heart strings yet!” - George Orwell I've been getting a lot of lessons lately about how time heals all wounds. People tell me it takes time, things will get [...]
In the years leading up to my divorce I used to get together with my friends and we would (ahem - occasionally) sit around and discuss how irritating our partners were being at the moment. As things got more dire between myself and my ex-husband this became the only thing I ever really talked about. [...]
Last night I went to a workshop on personal boundaries: identifying them, maintaining them, and communicating them to others. I went out of interest's sake as I've always thought I had fairly good personal boundaries and I see myself as a strong independent confident type of person. Plus the workshop was free and the accountant in me loves getting free training [...]
In Lynne Twist's book, The Soul Of Money, she writes: For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is "I didn't get enough sleep." The next one is "I don't have enough time." Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think [...]
Congratulations. Finalizing a separation agreement is a major achievement and usually comes at the end of a very stressful and emotional period in your life. Signing a separation agreement will likely have a strong emotional impact on you. It is tangible evidence that your old life, the one you once had hopes and dreams for, is finally done. [...]
I just finished my first tax return for a family that is eligible for the Family Tax Cut that was announced in October 2014 and affects the 2014 tax year. What is the Family Tax Cut? The Cut only applies in certain situations: You and your eligible spouse or common-law partner lived in Canada at December [...]
RRSP: The maximum RRSP contribution for 2015 is $24,930. Remember to look at your 2014 Notice of Assessment to see what your actual contribution room is. TFSA: he TFSA limit for 2015 is $5,500, for a total of $36,500 in room available for someone who has never contributed and has been eligible for the TFSA [...]