Divorce is usually the end result of a typical progression of circumstances. It usually goes like this: You get married You begin navigating your married life with your partner You and your partner start experiencing challenging life circumstances You and your partner begin to realize you approach life's challenges differently You attempt to negotiate with [...]
When I realized my marriage was over, one of the first things I started thinking about was how my life was going to change and not only change, but change for the worse. Everything was going to be harder. I was becoming a single parent for half my waking hours and I was starting that [...]
When I was growing up, I was always told that I was responsible for paying for my own university education. My parents wanted me to go to university, but they also wanted me to start learning how to be financially independent. Actually, I’m not sure if it was a conscious decision on their part to [...]
I keep a file with half started blog posts and today I was searching around for a post to finalize and I opened this one: “Working From Home with Kids” and surprise surprise, it was blank. I think that says it all. It is challenging to work from home when your kids are home [...]
Does salary level determine the worthiness of a job or a person? I think most of us would say “NO WAY!” including myself yet actions and behaviour speak louder than words. When I was earning a decent salary (actually some would have probably considered it indecent), for my age people treated me differently. They seemed [...]
Are you in the middle of a Transition Day?. Perhaps you feel like this? There are two types of transition days. The ones where the kids leave to go stay with their other parent and the ones where the kids come back to you. Let’s deal with the leaving days first... The first thing to do [...]
I often wonder if there are other parents out there like me. I start wondering it about five minutes after dropping my kids off at school. Day one of five days they are with their dad on our 2255 parenting schedule. Are there other parents out there that know what a 2255 parenting schedule means? [...]
When you think of your life up until this point does it make you happy or do you focus on the negative aspects of your past and use it as an excuse to stop moving forward? How we view the past often depends on how we perceive our present life. If you are living [...]
I had an uncomfortable conversation with a friend last night. She is in the middle of a very bitter divorce and she is feeling fearful of the outcome which will be decided by a judge. A brief history of her situation. Let’s call her Sara. Sara is getting divorced from her husband. They have two [...]
When my ex and I first separated, I spent a long time trying to craft my emails to my ex so that there was nothing offensive in them. I did not want him to attack back as reading those attacks was pretty painful. How could this person that I had been a partner to for 20 [...]