From my very unofficial polling of people that I come across in life, it seems that money and parenting issues are the major causes of divorce. I had a slightly funny and slightly tragic conversation with a friend the other day. We were commiserating on the fact that we both separated from our spouses because [...]
I think our beliefs and the stories we tell ourselves drive our lives. It is what your head is telling you that determines if you will have a good day or bad day. Yes, I believe we manifest our destiny by our beliefs. I came to this realization after a lot of self-reflection. What is it that makes [...]
When I think back on my life when my first born was in his first year, I recall thinking that I was soooo glad that I wasn't a single parent. I was in awe of people that were living as single parents. Fast forward a number of years and I find myself living as a [...]
I have a good friend who is very insightful, and she has done it again. She has inspired this week's post. We hadn't talked in a while and started discussing how we were each doing. She has Lupus - a chronic inflammatory disease that occurs when your body's immune system attacks your tissues and organs, [...]
I have a friend and she has two sets of what look like playing cards, called Life Cards and Angel Cards. Every once in awhile, she drags them out of the cupboard and we pick one of each (without looking). It's something that takes about 10 minutes but it is an exercise that drags us back [...]
I recently did a set of spending plans for a couple that is separated. They are trying to sort of the how they are going to share parenting arrangements going forward. Their individual financial situations depend on what they decide. Are they going to share parenting or is one parent going to be designated the [...]
When I was freshly separated I was under terrible stress and in extreme emotional pain. My days were consumed with anger and sadness and I remember wondering if anything could be worse than going through a divorce. According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, death of a spouse tops out as the most stressful known [...]
"People turn up in your life when you need them." This was said to me by someone recently and she was essentially predicting her appearance in my life. At the time of our meeting, I was actually thinking: "I do not need this person at all in my life." She blew in the door and [...]
Empathy is an interesting thing. I've always felt like I have a bit too much of it. I could easily empathize with someone who was in pain and I would spend a good chunk of my time figuring out how to help that person. If I couldn't help them, I would feel bad. I always thought my [...]
Divorce is usually the end result of a typical progression of circumstances. It usually goes like this: You get married You begin navigating your married life with your partner You and your partner start experiencing challenging life circumstances You and your partner begin to realize you approach life's challenges differently You attempt to negotiate with [...]