I recently met someone who has the following strategy. He works on a contract basis for six months and makes good money. He pays off the debt he accumulated when he wasn't working and then he quits and gradually builds up debt until it gets to be unsustainable and then he goes and works again. His [...]
I am curious about the stories people tell themselves about money. I have been gaining self-awareness about how my stories have majorly impacted my life and so I was interested to learn if other's stories have had the same impact on their own lives. A friend kindly offered to share her story with me. She already [...]
When I was freshly separated I was under terrible stress and in extreme emotional pain. My days were consumed with anger and sadness and I remember wondering if anything could be worse than going through a divorce. According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, death of a spouse tops out as the most stressful known [...]
I recently went to the Economic Update that CPABC (that's Chartered Professional Accountants of BC) puts on every year. I go every year as it is free professional development (well, almost free as it consumes my time) and I always think that I might learn something. This year I learned that the Economic Update works [...]
Empathy is an interesting thing. I've always felt like I have a bit too much of it. I could easily empathize with someone who was in pain and I would spend a good chunk of my time figuring out how to help that person. If I couldn't help them, I would feel bad. I always thought my [...]
When I realized my marriage was over, one of the first things I started thinking about was how my life was going to change and not only change, but change for the worse. Everything was going to be harder. I was becoming a single parent for half my waking hours and I was starting that [...]
In Lynne Twist's book, The Soul Of Money, she writes: For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is "I didn't get enough sleep." The next one is "I don't have enough time." Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think [...]
Congratulations. Finalizing a separation agreement is a major achievement and usually comes at the end of a very stressful and emotional period in your life. Signing a separation agreement will likely have a strong emotional impact on you. It is tangible evidence that your old life, the one you once had hopes and dreams for, is finally done. [...]
There are many of negative thoughts out there that keep a person stuck in one place. I know because these thoughts kept me stuck: I let those thoughts control my actions. One thought that keeps turning up in my life is "I can't do it." This is accompanied with "I am not good, smart, ambitious, deserving. [...]
Do you sometimes think to yourself “I am alone”? I do. It is usually immediately after dropping my kids off at school on a day that is the start of a five day stretch where they live at their dad’s home. It doesn’t matter that about thirty minutes earlier they were driving me bonkers with [...]