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February 2016

Shifting the Stories We Tell Ourselves

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:50-08:00 February 3rd, 2016|Divorce Self-Help, Self-Help|

I think our beliefs and the stories we tell ourselves drive our lives. It is what your head is telling you that determines if you will have a good day or bad day. Yes, I believe we manifest our destiny by our beliefs. I came to this realization after a lot of self-reflection. What is it that makes [...]

January 2016

Work Life Balance

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:50-08:00 January 27th, 2016|Self-Help|

Do you have your own business? Are you contemplating starting your own business? I recommend you think about putting structures into place to maintain work-life balance. Or not. Yeah, I'm conflicted about this. I love my job. I love it so much that other things have basically flown out the window. Today someone asked me [...]

Single Parenting

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:50-08:00 January 19th, 2016|Divorce Self-Help|

When I think back on my life when my first born was in his first year, I recall thinking that I was soooo glad that I wasn't a single parent.  I was in awe of people that were living as single parents. Fast forward a number of years and I find myself living as a [...]

December 2015

It’s Mostly Perspective

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:50-08:00 December 10th, 2015|Financial Self-Help, Self-Help|

Last's week's post is missing.  Where did it go? It got decimated by the negative internal chatter and negative future focus that was going on in my brain for the last two weeks. When I finally got out from it, this week's blog post presented itself: Your victimhood perspective is making you stuck. You know [...]

November 2015

Revelation and Patience

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51-08:00 November 26th, 2015|Divorce Self-Help, Self-Help|

I have a friend and she has two sets of what look like playing cards, called Life Cards and Angel Cards. Every once in awhile, she drags them out of the cupboard and we pick one of each (without looking). It's something that takes about 10 minutes but it is an exercise that drags us back [...]

Relationship George Vs. Independent George

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51-08:00 November 18th, 2015|Divorce Self-Help, Self-Help|

Not sure if many of you watched Seinfeld back in the day it originally aired. I did and there is one episode that really resonates with me right now. What I remember about the episode is the fact that George was in conflict with his two personas:  Independent George and Relationship George. Relationship George was [...]

The Child Support Guidelines and How they Impact Parenting Decisions

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51-08:00 November 12th, 2015|Divorce Self-Help, Financial Planning Steps, Parenting and Finances|

I recently did a set of spending plans for a couple that is separated. They are trying to sort of the how they are going to share parenting arrangements going forward.  Their individual financial situations depend on what they decide. Are they going to share parenting or is one parent going to be designated the [...]

The Good Divorce

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51-08:00 November 5th, 2015|Beginning Again, Divorce Self-Help|

When I was freshly separated I was under terrible stress and in extreme emotional pain. My days were consumed with anger and sadness and I remember wondering if anything could be worse than going through a divorce. According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, death of a spouse tops out as the most stressful known [...]