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The Slowest Way (But Really, It’s Faster)

by | Dec 27, 2023

The Slow Way (But Really, It's the Fastest) There's a version of my own separation agreement on page five that laid out my plan to get my old job back. It was there because everyone around me- lawyers, family, well-meaning friends- assumed that was obviously the right...

Zip, Zero, Nada

by | Nov 20, 2023

Zip, Zero, Nada Does salary level determine a job's worth, or a person's? Most of us would say "no way," including myself, yet actions and behaviour speak louder than words. When I was earning a decent salary, some might have called it indecent for my age; people...

Extortion, By any other name

by | Nov 19, 2023

Extortion, By Another Name Systems are insidious. They keep us trapped even when we know better. How do we escape one? I don't know. I'm part of this one. It surrounds me; I can't elude it, and I'm forced to be complicit. The family justice system is one of those...

Extortion, By any other name

Nov 19, 2023 |

Extortion, By Another Name Systems are insidious. They keep us trapped even when we know better. How do we escape one? I don't know. I'm part of this one. It surrounds me; I can't elude it, and I'm...

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Getting out of Limbo

Apr 2, 2020 |

Getting out of limbo   It is C+16 since my world changed, and I find myself in limbo. Pardon me if you don't understand my lingo. Coincidentally, I am reading "Seveneves" by Neal Stephenson, a...

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Advocate, Mom, Writer

My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.