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Know Yourself First

by | Sep 30, 2015

Know Yourself First When I realized my marriage was over, one of the first things I started thinking about was how much harder my life was about to get. Everything was going to be harder. I was becoming a single parent for half my waking hours, starting that new...

Believing in the Plan

by | Sep 23, 2015

Believing in the Plan I hate spending money. Some genetic combination of Scottish, Dutch, and a Depression-era family upbringing turned me into someone who gets anxious just walking up to a cash register. Some people call shopping retail therapy. It's never once been...

Divorced and Still on the Hook

by | Sep 15, 2015

Divorced and still on the hook Growing up, I was always told I'd be responsible for paying my own way through university. My parents wanted me to go, but they also wanted me to learn financial independence early. I'm honestly not sure if that was a deliberate...

Noticing the Thoughts

Apr 4, 2015 |

Noticing the Thoughts In her book The Soul of Money, Lynne Twist writes about how many of us wake up with the same automatic thought before we've even had a chance to question it: not enough sleep,...

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Borrowing Trouble

Nov 24, 2014 |

Borrowing Trouble My coach used an old idiom with me the other day: that some people have a habit of "borrowing trouble," and it landed. I've always avoided borrowing things generally (except my...

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I can do it

Nov 10, 2014 |

I Can Do It There are a lot of negative thoughts out there that keep a person stuck in place. I know, because these particular ones kept me stuck for years. I let them steer my actions without ever...

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Advocate, Mom, Writer

My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.