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The Story I told myself about money

by | Feb 10, 2016

The Story I Told Myself About Money The stories that play in our heads usually get planted there by whatever's happening in the world around us as we grow up. We absorb them from parents, friends, and the wider culture, and depending on how loud and constant they are,...

No Hobbies

by | Jan 27, 2016

No Hobbies Do you have your own business? Are you thinking about starting one? I'd tell you to put some structures in place for work-life balance. Or not. I was conflicted about this for a long time. I loved my work so much that everything else basically fell away....

The Part-Time Single Parent

by | Jan 19, 2016

The Part-Time Single Parent When my first son was in his first year, I remember being so relieved I wasn't a single parent. I was in awe of anyone who was. Years later, I'm a single parent to two spirited boys for half of my life. The other half, I'm supposedly...

Know Yourself First

Sep 30, 2015 |

Know Yourself First When I realized my marriage was over, one of the first things I started thinking about was how much harder my life was about to get. Everything was going to be harder. I was...

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Believing in the Plan

Sep 23, 2015 |

Believing in the Plan I hate spending money. Some genetic combination of Scottish, Dutch, and a Depression-era family upbringing turned me into someone who gets anxious just walking up to a cash...

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Advocate, Mom, Writer

My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.