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Ex Flare-Ups

by | Jan 10, 2016

  Ex Flare-Ups Some things in life flare up on you. No warning, no pattern you can predict; they're just suddenly there. That's how I've come to think of dealing with my ex. Not constant, not even frequent, but when it happens, it happens fast and hits harder...

Marriage Is a Credit Card

by | Dec 21, 2015

Marriage Is a Credit Card I've been getting some strong reminders lately about the importance of planning. Very strong. The core lesson keeps repeating itself: skip the upfront planning on something important, and things can go badly wrong. Do a little work ahead of...

Choosing Not to be a victim

by | Dec 10, 2015

Choosing Not to Be a Victim Last week's post is missing. Where did it go? It got wiped out by two weeks of negative internal chatter and a brain stuck firmly on the worst-case future. When I finally climbed out, this week's post showed up on its own: your victimhood...

Day Zero

Sep 2, 2015 |

Day Zero I've been thinking about loss lately, and how it drops a person into a stress so heavy it's often easier to just go back to whatever you were doing before and pretend the loss isn't sitting...

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My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.