It's a Journey

How do You Know When to Pull the Plug on Your Marriage?

The Two Fears That Almost Kept Me Married When do you decide to give up on a marriage, actually call it quits, and ask for a divorce? I ask because I honestly don't know the answer. I never made that decision myself; my ex made it for both of us. Left to my own...

The Blame Game

Blame and Happiness I went to a great workshop a few weeks ago put on by Dr. Sue Goldswain and John Boland. If you're ever in the market for a marriage counsellor, they're worth looking into. One thing that stuck with me: it takes two people to build a relationship,...

hire yourself

Hire Yourself Tax season always brought the same question to mind: why is it still this stressful for so many people, when the software gets easier and cheaper every year? I've seen the full range. Some people have everything to me the day filing opens, organized...

Marriage Is a Credit Card

Marriage Is a Credit Card I've been getting some strong reminders lately about the importance of planning. Very strong. The core lesson keeps repeating itself: skip the upfront planning on something...

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Advocate, Mom, Writer

My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.