I've been getting some very strong reminders lately about the importance of planning. Very strong. The main reminder I have been getting is that if you don't plan adequately for certain stuff in life, things can go very wrong, On the flip side, by doing just a little work upfront, life can go [...]
Last's week's post is missing. Where did it go? It got decimated by the negative internal chatter and negative future focus that was going on in my brain for the last two weeks. When I finally got out from it, this week's blog post presented itself: Your victimhood perspective is making you stuck. You know [...]
I have a friend and she has two sets of what look like playing cards, called Life Cards and Angel Cards. Every once in awhile, she drags them out of the cupboard and we pick one of each (without looking). It's something that takes about 10 minutes but it is an exercise that drags us back [...]
I recently did a set of spending plans for a couple that is separated. They are trying to sort of the how they are going to share parenting arrangements going forward. Their individual financial situations depend on what they decide. Are they going to share parenting or is one parent going to be designated the [...]
When I was freshly separated I was under terrible stress and in extreme emotional pain. My days were consumed with anger and sadness and I remember wondering if anything could be worse than going through a divorce. According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, death of a spouse tops out as the most stressful known [...]
I recently went to the Economic Update that CPABC (that's Chartered Professional Accountants of BC) puts on every year. I go every year as it is free professional development (well, almost free as it consumes my time) and I always think that I might learn something. This year I learned that the Economic Update works [...]
"People turn up in your life when you need them." This was said to me by someone recently and she was essentially predicting her appearance in my life. At the time of our meeting, I was actually thinking: "I do not need this person at all in my life." She blew in the door and [...]
Empathy is an interesting thing. I've always felt like I have a bit too much of it. I could easily empathize with someone who was in pain and I would spend a good chunk of my time figuring out how to help that person. If I couldn't help them, I would feel bad. I always thought my [...]
Divorce is usually the end result of a typical progression of circumstances. It usually goes like this: You get married You begin navigating your married life with your partner You and your partner start experiencing challenging life circumstances You and your partner begin to realize you approach life's challenges differently You attempt to negotiate with [...]
When I realized my marriage was over, one of the first things I started thinking about was how my life was going to change and not only change, but change for the worse. Everything was going to be harder. I was becoming a single parent for half my waking hours and I was starting that [...]