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Revelation and Patience

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51+00:00 November 26th, 2015|Divorce Self-Help, Self-Help|

I have a friend and she has two sets of what look like playing cards, called Life Cards and Angel Cards. Every once in awhile, she drags them out of the cupboard and we pick one of each (without looking). It's something that takes about 10 minutes but it is an exercise that drags us back [...]

Relationship George Vs. Independent George

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51+00:00 November 18th, 2015|Divorce Self-Help, Self-Help|

Not sure if many of you watched Seinfeld back in the day it originally aired. I did and there is one episode that really resonates with me right now. What I remember about the episode is the fact that George was in conflict with his two personas:  Independent George and Relationship George. Relationship George was [...]

The Child Support Guidelines and How they Impact Parenting Decisions

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51+00:00 November 12th, 2015|Divorce Self-Help, Financial Planning Steps, Parenting and Finances|

I recently did a set of spending plans for a couple that is separated. They are trying to sort of the how they are going to share parenting arrangements going forward.  Their individual financial situations depend on what they decide. Are they going to share parenting or is one parent going to be designated the [...]

The Good Divorce

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51+00:00 November 5th, 2015|Beginning Again, Divorce Self-Help|

When I was freshly separated I was under terrible stress and in extreme emotional pain. My days were consumed with anger and sadness and I remember wondering if anything could be worse than going through a divorce. According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, death of a spouse tops out as the most stressful known [...]

Coaching verses Commanding

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51+00:00 October 21st, 2015|Divorce Self-Help, Self-Help|

  "People turn up in your life when you need them." This was said to me by someone recently and she was essentially predicting her appearance in my life. At the time of our meeting, I was actually thinking: "I do not need this person at all in my life." She blew in the door and [...]

The Chicken or the Egg in Divorce

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51+00:00 October 10th, 2015|Divorce Self-Help|

  Divorce is usually the end result of a typical progression of circumstances. It usually goes like this: You get married You begin navigating your married life with your partner You and your partner start experiencing challenging life circumstances You and your partner begin to realize you approach life's challenges differently You attempt to negotiate with [...]

Children, Postsecondary Education and Divorce

By | 2016-11-25T02:24:51+00:00 September 15th, 2015|Divorce Self-Help, Financial Planning Steps, Parenting and Finances|

When I was growing up, I was always told that I was responsible for paying for my own university education. My parents wanted me to go to university, but they also wanted me to start learning how to be financially independent. Actually, I’m not sure if it was a conscious decision on their part to [...]